I was talking to a friend tonight, and she reminded me that I had a blog - haha! Sorry I never started posting again after the holidays. School has been nuts, and DD has been on the back burner a bit... or a bunch.

DD always gets messed up around the holidays for us. We go to our parents houses to visit, and there's obviously no spanking going on, and when we come home it takes a while to get back into the swing of things.

A couple of nights ago I finally got the courage to say to Paul that I was feeling a little lost/insecure with our DD and really needed some time to reconnect. I was half expecting him to grunt or groan, but he was actually really relieved I brought it up. Seems I wasn't the only one feeling "off". That made me feel a lot better about things already! It's nice to get little signs like that telling me he really is 100% on board with all of this. I feel like know he is doing DD for US and not just for ME. There is such a big difference there.

Anyway, we agreed that some kind of reconnection spanking was in order. I HATE asking for spankings, so I was glad that he kind of steered the conversation in that direction. We ended up having a pretty good chat about how stressful it is to try and put spankings into specific categories, e.g. "punishment" "good girl" "maintenance" " reminder" etc. It's much easier for us to just let things unfold in whatever way seems to fit at the time. I was thinking I needed a bit of a firm "stress relief" spanking, but what ended up happening was a pretty laid back spanking that we laughed through most of. It was awesome to feel the stress of having been so disconnected just melt away. It really didn't matter how he was spanking, just that we were there together bringing DD back to the forefront and reconnecting on that level that only DD can bring. I'm feeling pretty good about things, now.

Paul is out of town right now, but my goal when he comes back is to try to get more on the same page about rules, etc. We haven't had a punishment spanking in a long, long time. I'm not complaining about that, but at the same time it makes me feel a little bit like I don't know what we're working on right now, if that makes sense. I asked Paul about this a little bit, and he named off a lot of things we are working on that are actually significantly better right now. The reason I haven't been spanked because I'm doing so much better and the big things we started out focusing on - communication, etc. That really made me feel good, but I have this nagging part of me that keeps saying if we're doing so good at that, maybe it's time to move on to something else. I'm wondering if having some smaller habits to work on would help me feel like there was more continuity to our DD. Instead of working on the big overall issues, maybe if we added something like swearing, or not calling him when I'm on my way home to the list, that it would be easier for me to see our DD inaction. I don't love punishment spankings, but they do help me feel more secure about Paul's committment to DD.

We'll see what happens.... :) Paul probably won't post this week, but look for his response when he gets back from out of town.

Jenna